The strength within all of us
I would have never imagined that the strongest of all of us would have had self-doubts. This was my learnings from one of my first coaching sessions.
I was working with women and students who required clarity and direction regarding their chosen careers. Most people came with the textbook definition of confusion regarding what to do and how to proceed.
Meena (name changed) was an exception. I had the good fortune of speaking with her for 3 sessions and was able to learn a lot from her. She was a very strong-willed woman, who had truly made lemonades from the lemons that life gave her. A short version of her story is mentioned below.
Meena was born in a family of 7 children. Last but one, her parents could not afford to send her to school. She did not give up her dreams of education and studied through distance education and correspondence courses. She simultaneously started working from the age of 19 and gradually rose to a good role in an organization. She was married into a moderately well to do family and had 2 kids. She regularly doubted herself and her abilities, when she was not considered for promotions in her organization. She also was unaware of her self-worth and kept feeling miserable in a role, that she was constantly thinking of leaving. When she came to meet me, she was unsure of her decision to find a new satisfying job.
I was impressed by her honesty but she lacked the courage to make changes. I noticed that she was disillusioned that she was afraid of being without a job. The second session brought out the revelation “The one thing that truly concerned her was money” rest were transient issues and could be ignored.
These are 3 common threads that I found from other working women.
- Many women start working to feel empowered and assured of themselves.
- They were also unaware of their strengths and abilities.
- Working mothers are mostly torn between caring for family and performing well at office.
There are few tips that can help working women find strength and courage to go on. I have mentioned a few below.
- Always start the day with a quick round of meditation or pranayama. Make 10 minutes time every morning, just after you get up and every night before you go to sleep. You will notice a remarkable change in the quality of your day.
- If you feel pressed for time and are unable to spend time for exercises, then take 10 minutes break from your work, all through the day. There are many short 5–10-minute workout on the internet to get you started. The idea is to keep your mind and body fit.
- Start and stop work at designated times. Maintain scheduled time for home and office.
- Ask your family to lend a hand at home and at office, find friends who could step in when you are swamped on certain days. The emphasis here is on asking for help, when needed. Start this practice. Remember to express your gratitude for the help received, both at office and at home.
- When in doubt or confusion, try to remember the time when you felt very confident. Close your eyes and remember the scene in your mind. If you cannot picture yourself, then think of anyone else, like your mother, father or favorite personality. Think how they act when faced with such dilemma. Try to imitate them. Just think of their body language, facial expressions and try to imitate them. Once you get a hang of this technique, you find it easy to transform your self into another person, to resolve conflicts or find strengths.
There are many techniques to help us to conquer our fears and find the latent strengths within all of us.
If you like to explore more about your strengths and uniqueness, reach out to me at email@example.com.
The Sanskrit word Avisaktav means- unstoppable .